Easter Weekend…Have a Good One!

 

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Easter weekend is finally here, and I’m pretty excited to see this little guy crack his first Easter eggs (cascarones)…and run around and such. I didn’t realize how much I missed the real excitement of Easter until I became a mom. Now, I understand how fun it was for my mom to dress us up, build Easter baskets, take bunny photos and dye eggs.

I took this photo last year right before Antonio’s first birthday, so this year will be the first Easter where he understands the holiday. I’ve got a shopping bag full of Easter basket bits to put together. We’ll be coloring the rest of the eggs tonight, and on Sunday, we’ll be visiting my sister for her Easter sacraments ceremony. I’ll say that Antonio has a full Easter experience ahead of him. Happy Easter, everyone…here’s hoping there’s a chocolate bunny in your future!

Natural Nursery with homemade Texas flair

As a wedding photographer, one of the things I get to do is follow couples as they start their families.  It’s always exciting to hear that the couple has a new little person in their life.  Part of a newborn … Continue reading

What I’m Reading Now: The Honest Life

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One of my New Year’s resolutions this year was to use my library card more. I also up the ante by trying to read one book a week. To date, I’ve averaged about one book a month, which is better than I had been doing. Last year, I read three books total. It was my first year as a mom so finishing a magazine was a treat.

For my first ‘What I’m Reading…’ post, I chose to read Jessica Alba’s “The Honest Life”. I’m not a “green” team person by any means, but I want things that are clean and safe for my baby’s body. I started questioning things when I was nesting. Now that he eats table food and tries to lick everything he touches, it’s even more important to know what’s going in his mouth.

I don’t want to be the one who taints his body.

Watching my mom struggle with cancer this past year has me questioning more the every day chemicals and toxins we come in contact with. Are we killing our bodies and am i hurting my little guy by trying to disinfect for him?

The eco-products are safe for the environment but are the disinfecting chemicals safe for my toddler. Up to this point, I’ve been using baby wipes on his high chair, but am I leaving germs as his food choices start to grow.

In the book’s introduction, Alba states:

I eat (organic) meat.
I don’t have time to wash cloth diapers.
I have a total black thumb-if I had to grow our food, we’d starve.

That statement reeled me in. I’m not trying to be a super mom (Gwyneth). I just want to be a good mom.

If you’ve read the book, let me know what you think of it. Thanks for joining me in the conversation.

Social Media and a Parent’s Death

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Last month, I experienced the most heart-breaking moment of my life…my mom died. I was with her from her last conversation to her last breath.

A post on Bluebird Kisses prompted me to finally post about it, since the topic of social media and death has started a debate on ‘sharing’ too much.

The man behind the controversy is Scott Simon, a NPR radio personality, who started tweeting from his mother’s hospital bedside. His tweets shared intimate moments of cradling his mother, holding her hand, her heart rate dropping and when she died. Just reading the few comments below you can see the tug of war between support and criticism.

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During my mother’s last days, I wrestled with using the word “death” in a tweet or status update. I was feeling so many emotions that I felt were insensitive to share. I didn’t want to invite sympathy or distraction, so i stayed away from posting. That being said, I appreciated Simon’s posts.

Simon gave a voice to the experience that I didn’t want to share. I didn’t want to break people’s hearts by telling my story, especially those who have not lost a parent. Simon made me feel connected and calm, because I knew he shared my pain.

In the days following my mother’s death, my family found comfort in memorial Facebook posts friends and family put in their status updates. My mother didn’t want a funeral, and she chose to be cremated, so in a way, online posts served the purpose of a funeral and obituary. It never even occurred to us to place an obit in her hometown newspaper.

We filtered through family photos, and posted them onto her Facebook page for people to download as keepsakes. Having her life in pictures helped me grieve and relatives were grateful to have photos with her tagged to their profile.

In the next few months, we’ll have to cancel her email and Facebook account, but for now, it’s nice to see her face online everyday. It’s like a bit of her is still here. It’s not insulting or disgraceful to share if sharing helps you cope.

So I say, Simon, handle your grief for you, and let others have their opinions for themselves. Something about being able to share this experience makes it real. I’m glad that Simon’s sharing prompted me to post.

Co-sleeping…It happens to the rest of us too!

From the start, I swore up and down that we would not sleep with a baby in the bed. Nothing against co-sleeping…besides that it’s hippie-dippie, for breast-feeders only and 10yr-olds that can’t handle the dark.

At least that’s what I thought until I ran across this funny book from How To Be a Dad. I saw the cover and laughed out loud, because I realized that was an illustration of us about three times a week.

Just the other day, my husband pointed out that we only sleep miles a part when our son sleeps sideways in between us. I know that’s the definition of co-sleeping, but it’s not how we started out.

First we started with putting him to sleep in the crib. Then we moved, and he got his own room. Now, our 1yr old has taken to waking up at 3am screaming to get out of the crib. Sleep deprivation led us to drag him to our bed in the middle of the night. It’s the only way for us all to go back to sleep sometimes. This doesn’t happen every night, so I would call us “part-time co-sleepers”.

Here’s our current co-sleeping position. Hopefully, he’s not in our bed forever, but I’m in no rush to push him out either.

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Gosling, Mendes and a one-year old

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You have plenty of reasons to go and see the new Ryan Gosling movie, but who knew one of those reasons would be that it’s a family flick. Not a take-your-small-children type of flick, but a story about a young family and how the past haunts their future. I was shocked how hard the story hit me. The movie focuses around Ryan Gosling and Bradley Cooper’s one-year old sons and their fate in relation to their parents lives.

Next week I will be the parent of a one-year old, and we’ve been talking about traditions, college funds and what kind of man we want to raise. The movie touches on all of these topics, but mostly it takes a look at the parents lives and how much is in and beyond our control. Check out  A Place Beyond the Pines and let me know what you think as a parent.

Will you hate Liotta’s character too? Do you think they made Eva’s character too rough? And do you love Gosling and Cooper even more after this movie?